I’ve been dating a woman that I met on an online dating site since November, and I like her a lot, she’s a lot of fun, and we have a good time together. We both have a busy schedule, and limited time to see each other. It seemed like a perfect relationship, but we’re at a point where she is more serious about things than I am. She is planning, tentatively, a future for us that I don’t see happening.
I’m not against a long term relationship, but she isn’t the person for me. I’ve been honest about this, I like her, and I don’t want to break things off, but I also don’t want her to be hurt. There will come a time where she wants a commitment that I’m not willing to commit to. She has let me know that I am something different in her life. She got married early and has never met anyone like me before. That feels pretty good, especially after being unceremoniously dumped. I’ve let her know that I’m not in love, and she has acknowledged that fact, and she’s lots of fun. We go to plays, movies, dinners, and have a good time together. So is it reasonable to continue to date, or is it better to end things now. I don’t know. I’ve been married for the last 15 years, and she was married for 26 years.
I want to do the right thing,but at the same time, I want to be fair to myself too.
This woman is attractive, and intelligent, but I know she isn’t “the one” for me. I’m not sure why, but she isn’t. I want to be honest, and reasonable. I’m having fun, she’s having fun. I’ve been clear about my feelings. So is it ok to keep showing up?